News Alert: Bob and Carol Deutsch Turn 60

Bob's Inaugural Posting

2007-11-25T09:39:00.000-05:00

Like Art Carney in golf attire, I am addressing the Blog for the first time. Thanks to our great "kids", Robin, Dave, and Andy, we have this great new vehicle to express ourselves and keep family and friends abreast of the latest developments. I'm even listening to a radio station I created on Pandora's Box, as a move at warp speed into new technology. Thanks, guys, for the idea and effort to implement the Blog. Love, Dad

Carol's Inaugural Blog

2007-11-24T13:52:00.000-05:00

Happy Thanksgiving Weekend. After way too much turkey and pie, we are heading back from Atlanta to WNC. Until next time and posting, much love

Carol

Gerald & Helen Cohen Weigh In

2007-10-31T23:25:00.000-04:00

"How did it happen that..." (a group project)

2007-10-25T23:21:00.000-04:00

*HOW DID IT HAPPEN THAT…
(Initiate by Sister Judy and Brother-in-Law Marty)

(To all visitors and/or participants to the Carol and Bob Blog: You are cordially invited to add Carol and Bobby “ism” Happenings - this is merely a starter list, now it’s your turn. Add one or more happenings and we will all watch the list grow! Be sure to identify your contribution.)

The knees in all of Judy’s slacks were stretched out (Carol wore them)

All of the coats taken to a BBYO Convention disappeared (Carol borrowed them)

Mr. Gregory, the next door neighbor on Dellwood Drive, called to see if someone was hurt…he heard someone screaming (Carol, age 14, reacting to one of her teachers at Northside High School)

The JOJ (BBYO) Basketball Team didn’t win a game (According the coach, Marty Kogon, “Carol was better than Judy!”)

The best songs were written at Lake Lanier during storms (Bobby wrote them)

A golf club ended up in the upper branches of a tree at the Meridan Mississippi Country Club (Bobby played golf)

Judy made a 4-point landing on the 3rd fairway of the Meridian Country (Carol drove the golf cart and threw her out)

The towel bar “just came out of the wall” in the guest bathroom (Bobby “just” hung up the towel)

The clothing bar and all of the clothes in the closets of the guest room ended up on the floor (Victim of a Carol and Bobby visit)

All of the condiments on the 3 shelves on the refrigerator door landed on the kitchen floor (Bobby was making breakfast)

During Passover 2 Temptee Cream Cheeses, 1 Whipped Butter, 1 jar of Preserves, 1/2 box of matzahs and 6 eggs are consumed daily for breakfast (Carol and Judy really love Passover)

In one day there are 4 sets of sweaty clothes (Bobby’s typical day activities – running 5 miles, biking 20 miles; jumping rope for 45 minutes, stretching – and that’s before breakfast!)

A horseback ride during a family trip to Tucson ended abruptly (Carol and a cactus collided)

A Security Deposit is a pre-requisite for a visit to Winterthur Lane (Experience of 60 years of living with Carol and 38 years of visits from the Deutsches – we’re slow learners)

Canyon Ranch visits deserve hazard pay (Carol left Judy for one class and Judy ended up with the medics; Marty did a bike ride with Bobby – need we say more)

Etc., etc., etc.

The Bob and Carol Deutsch 60th Birthday Slide Show

2007-10-25T11:15:00.000-04:00

The "Ask"

2007-10-24T23:24:00.000-04:00

THE INSTRUCTIONS:
Many of you have contributed to our creative birthday efforts in the past. In fact, we recently uncovered the 'book of memories' that we put together for the fiftieth birthdays! Well, this time around we decided to catapult our parents into the 21st century - and go viral!

So, how could we NOT do something to celebrate this milestone? ... this is a surprise (shhhhh)

To celebrate their birthdays, we are launching [BobandCarols60th.blogspot.com] - a multimedia extravaganza of memories, photos, stories, tall tales and good wishes on their birthday.

So why are we contacting you?

1. We need your contributions - a funny story, reminiscences of a shared adventure, wishes on their birthday, etc. We'll post everything to the site and share the completed work of 'art' when we are done.

2. We need your help getting in touch with all of the people that would want to contribute - high school friends, college friends, grad school friends, Hendersonville friends, camp friends, etc. We have a LOT of your email addresses, but need your help. Please send us contact information (email is preferred) for old friends, new friends, family etc. that you think we should get in touch with.

3. Remember, this is a surprise. We'll 'launch' the site on October 26th when we head down to Asheville to celebrate.

Thank you so much for helping us try out a new medium and celebrate our parents' 60th birthday!

Any questions? Please email us:

Andy Deutsch (deutschandrew@gmail.com)
Robin & Dave Edwards (robin.d.edwards@gmail.com)

And the responses came pouring in....

2007-10-24T12:36:00.000-04:00

Musical Interlude "Bobby D's Back Seat"

2007-10-24T09:06:00.000-04:00

This song was written as a tribute to Bobby D's boy-scout attitude toward the backseat of his car - always be prepared! Never know when you'll need a Guidebook to Clouds, basketball, talit ....

Enjoy the musical interlude.

Bobby D’s Back Seat
Dave Edwards – Music & Lyrics 2007

Bobby D, Bobby D
What is that I see
Rollin’ ‘round the back seat of your car?
“My basketball” he’d say
“Never know when you get to play
So how about a little one-on-one? Your ball.”

Hey Bobby D, Bobby D
What’s in that bag I see
Sitting in the back seat of your car?
“It’s the shawl I wear to pray
To the Lord each seventh day
You can wear it, come and join me. It’s not hard.”

Ready to go, ready to go
At a moment’s notice, no matter what the show
Ready to roll
Just throw it in my car and head out on the road

Bobby D, Bobby D,
What’s this jamming against my knee?
As I try to find some space here in your car?
“Oh that’s my paddle, for Christ’s sake
When I canoe around Beaver Lake
And it won’t fit in the trunk, so please don’t start…”

Bobby D, Bobby D,
Where the hell you taking me
Schlepping through the hills with a packed car?
“Well I was riding my bike last week
And I want you to take a peek
At this new house, I think it’s around here, can’t be far.”

Ready to go, ready to go
Got my hiking boots and jump rope
Ready to roll, ready to roll
Just throw it in my car and head out on the road

Bobby D, Bobby D
There’s a hundred loose CD’s
Planted ‘round the back seat of your car.
“Oh yeah,” he’ll always say
“Can you find the one that’s gray?
There’s this guy, you’ve got to hear him play guitar.”

Bobby D, Bobby D
Have you noticed Maddy T
Lounging on the back seat of your car?
“You know I wondered where she could be
She must want a little somethin’ to eat
And another dose of meds straight from the jar”

“Hey Bob – what else you got there in that back seat of yours?”

Well, I found my daughter’s wedding album
And some foreign DVD’s
A tin of melted chocolate cookies
And collected clients’ legal fees

I got a hat from Bob’s Adventure Club
Stuck beneath the driver’s seat
My holey Warren Wilson sweatshirt
But don’t need it in this summer heat

Found a random Mont Blanc pen
But I never owned a Mont Blanc pen
It was in the Field Guide to Clouds
I wondered where that book had been

Here’s a sign that says “Go Blue!”
And a year-old Outside Magazine
A stack of unread bulletins
A folding chair I owe the JCC

And here’s a set of heavy hands
And a Blue Ridge Atlas guide
They’re sitting on my guitar case
That’s come along for the ride

Hardly room for anyone
With all this stuff in my back seat
But I’ll invite them anyway
Come one, come all to play with me

Dennis Deutsch

2007-10-24T08:50:00.000-04:00

60, Wow!!! When I moved back to Detroit, Dad had just turned 60, and I thought that was so old. He proved me wrong, being vibrant and more active than I thought anyone his age had a right to be for more than a quarter century.

Words cannot express how I feel about the two of you. I just hope that you have as long and active post 60 life as Dad did. Our new start at the Canyon Ranch is just a couple of weeks away. I look forward to additional adventures with both of you, as well as the ongoing family events (all should be simchas) including Seder in Atlanta.

Love,

Dennis

Judy and Marty Kogon

2007-10-24T08:28:00.000-04:00

We Are Family
((With apologies to Sister Sledge)

We are family
I got all my sisters, sister-in-laws, brothers, brother-in-law,
sons, daughters, nieces, nephews, grand-nieces,
aunts, uncles, and cousins with me
We are family
Get up everybody and sing
Everyone can see we're together
As we walk on by
(FLY!) and we fly just like birds of a feather
We won't tell no lie
(ALL!) all of the people around us they say
Can they be that close
Just let me state for the record
We're giving love in a family dose…

Dear Carol and Bobby,

You both are about to complete your first 60 years of life and, as such, it is a time of reflection for all of us. Upon embarking on this task, we realized that I have known Carol all of her 60 years, that Marty has known her for 47 of those 60 years and that we have both known Bobby for 42 out of 60 years. That’s a lot of history and memories…

• The 40’s – Carol arrives, red haired # 2 daughter; sharing a room; moving from the South side (Parkway Drive apartment) to the North side (Dellwood Drive house); crying, eating and playing (activities that continued for the next 59 years); attending Cousin Sadie Sacks’ Pre-school; visits to Grandparents – Cohen and Hillman; field trips to the zoo and Piedmont Park (see picture)

• The 50’s – living N.W. when every one else lived N.E.; E. Rivers Elementary School; sharing stuff; brother Mark appears; swimming at the Progressive Club, the Mayfair Club; car trips; motion sickness; “chepping” brother Mark; AJECOMCE Day Camp and Camp Blue Star (for only 1 month – our parents loved us and did not want us to be gone too long); Bar/Bat Mitzvah circuit (different friends, same routine); BBG Meetings and BBYO Conventions (Marshall Karo); borrowing and losing my clothes; Lake House at Lanier; skiing; sun hats and long sleeves; banjos and campfires; Marty entered

• The 60’s - Northside High School (lunch at the “Jewish” table); Judy leaves for college; Georgia Tech fraternity parties; Sweetheart; Lake Lanier; George Fox; working at Head Start; eating the entire summer; University of Michigan; pledging AEPhi; meeting Bobby; deactivating from AEPhi; parting hair in the middle; Lake House; boat and water skiing; writing songs during storms, sleeping separately; graduation trip to Europe (“Cohen, Lazarus and Lifchez”) and Israel (without air conditioning, “it’s bad for your health”); wedding at the A.A. Synagogue; rehearsal dinner skits; University of Boston and Harvard Law School; Women’s Lib

• The 70’s – Masters from BU; teach school; Bobby graduates; Mark lives with you and waits tables; fleeting plan to move to Canada; trip to Hendersonville, NC to visit where you went to camp; change of plans – move to NC; set up law practice; water shortage for 6 months; chop wood for fire; birthing of Robin in a Seventh Day Adventist hospital; pot luck dinners; trips to Atlanta and Detroit; move into newly renovated house in Hendersonville; Andy appears, all 9 lbs. 9 oz of him – via natural childbirth (crazy); birthday and anniversary skits

• The 80’s – Life in the Hendersonville rental house; move to Asheville; kids enter school; Sunday School Director; Donna; Bar Mitzvahs (Michael, Ross); more skits; swimming on Wesley Parkway; surgery and recovering; family trips; Camp Kogon; skits; PCA’s; Customer Service Detective is born; Canyon Ranch scholar-in-residence; road trips to Atlanta

• The 90’s – Robin’s Bat Mitzvah; walks around the bird sanctuary; Andy’s Bar Mitzvah; Family Mission to Israel; more family trips; more skits; “SIH”; Canyon Ranch; Donna; New Year’s Eve at Dunkin Donut; movies galore; Seders in the garage; email; Mayo Clinic with Mother and Daddy; College – University of Maryland, University of Pennsylvania, University of Michigan (3x), University of Vermont;

• The 2000’s – College graduations; children off the payroll; Grand Opening of Carol’s Spa; filming for Shalom Ya’ll and Moses (Bobby); weddings (Michael, Robin and Ross); next generation is started; Donna; more PCA’s; Canyon Ranch lamb chops; gray hair/less hair; arthritis; sore muscles; taking notes at appointments; reading glasses; “Welcome to Our Seder” commissioned by Carol and Bobby to commemorate the 10 Year Anniversary of Seder s in the garage; skits; internet; blogs

Thank you for sharing your life, friendship and memories with us. It has truly been a wonderful journey that we have traveled together for the past 60 years, and will continue to travel, as we enter the next decade(s). In The Life of Reason George Santayana said that “the family is one of nature’s masterpieces”; and Desmond Tutu stated, “You don't choose your family. They are God's gift to you, as you are to them”. What a wonderful, masterful gift we share.

With much love,

Judy and Marty

Mark & Tova Cohen

2007-10-23T22:55:00.000-04:00

Mark’s remaining memories of Carol:

§ Carol was an example to follow on how to react to teachers you didn’t like: throw a tantrum. She was really funny when she out of control

§ Memories from the back sit of the car: you don’t hit girls, even if your sisters are picking on you and pinching you.

§ Who’s ever heard of being allergic to the sun?! It must have something to do with red hair; I’m glad I don’t have red hair.

§ Freckles are different… it’s another red hair thing.

§ How come my big sisters never baby set for me?

§ I got my own room they had to share. I felt really good about that.

§ How could they possibly need so much clothing?

§ A big sister is worth having in BBYO; everyone knows me (and likes me as Carol’s kid brother), even before they met me.

§ It was kinda neat: they get to take off from the table and dad and I sat and talked. Good training for boys and girls?

§ Hand-me-downs: why is she complaining they look new to me.

§ Not the greatest playmate; I don’t think she understands what’s fun.

§ She studies too much… All A’s again?

§ She likes English: what’s a period got to do with it. I don’t think I understood this period thing.

Bobby enters the scene:

§ Bobby knew a lot about music, he played guitar all the time.

§ Bobby got into Harvard Law, he must be smart.

Tova joins the crew:

§ First trip to Hendersonville to introduce Tova, they served grilled hamburger with chunk of cheese in the center… Tova was amazed.

§ First house in the woods surrounded by trees – the quintessential flower children dwelling

§ Saluda house in the orchard = landed gentry for flower kids…

§ Wood burning sauna: running through the snow to the sauna.

§ …many more we can’t remember and many more to come!

Tova and Mark’s heartfelt wishes:

May you be blessed by the things over which you don’t have control and have the strength and courage to steer those which you do.

Nancy & Morris Deutsch

2007-10-23T22:23:00.000-04:00

Dear Carol and Bob:

We wish you both a very happy 60th! Your love and support has meant a lot to us through the years. It's been great growing closer to you two in recent years.

We share lots of special memories of times we spent together, from the mountains of Asheville, to the monuments in DC, to the top (and bottom) of the Wintergreen ski slopes, family cruises, Hilton Head, Toronto (Lion King), dinners at Boca Rio and Franklin Hills, and most recently hiking around the Swag.

Here's to 60 more years of special times, starting next month in Canyon Ranch. We love you!

Nancy and Morris

Robin Deutsch Edwards

2007-10-23T21:30:00.000-04:00

As we gathered our thoughts to find a meaningful way to help you celebrate this birthday milestone, I realized that I’ve known you for half of your life.

At my age you were parents and professionals. You had been married eight years, survived graduate school and moved to “east of nowhere” North Carolina. Many of your pre-kids memories and stories recounted by friends and family in this blog are intrinsically woven into the fabric of our lives and have become part of the Deutsch Family lexicon. We share a language peppered by those stories and memories created together. A language understood by few and a deeper understanding of the meaning behind the words and physical cues.

I am grateful to have had an ever-changing and ever-deepening relationship with you – one that has evolved from complete dependence, to shared discovery of the world, to friendship.

I am grateful for the deep appreciate for family and community that you gave to me and for the genuine interest that you have in my interests, endeavors and day-to-day life.

I am grateful to have followed your example and become friends with my brother.

I am grateful that you have embraced Dave as part of the family.

I am grateful to have shared half of your life and look forward to adventures yet to come.

This blog is our gift to you on this occasion. We had fun pushing the limits of our technological prowess (or lack thereof) and reaching out to the large network of friends and family. This is a dynamic gift and one that we hope you’ll actively use (after we supply the requisite lessons!).

I love you – Robin

Dave Edwards

2007-10-23T20:47:00.000-04:00

To Carol and Bob on Your 60th Birthdays – with much love from your Son-in-Law:

60 Greatest Moments in Just 6 Years (Just 1/10th of your lives!)

Introductions & Asheville:
1. First dinner at Flying Biscuit Midtown in Atlanta: Bob tells the story of getting poison ivy after necking with Carol on his first visit to meet Helen and Gerald.
2. Spagano Family email: April Fool’s joke…turned around on Bob when Dave forwards the email to Bob Edwards to let him know just who we were dealing with.
3. The Apprentice: Couples Edition: April Fool’s joke. Hook, line and sinker!
4. First whirlwind visit to Asheville: judge retirement party, “Howdy, Howdy”, Shabbat Dinner with the extended Asheville family.
5. Grand opening of Grove Arcade: voila!!! The Flying Walendas!
6. First hike with Bobby D. and Robin, and Bob keeps taking pictures: “I have a vision."
7. Months later, the second whirlwind trip to Asheville: lunch downtown, a quick jog, art exhibit, concert or 2.
8. Dave and Bob jog around Beaver Lake in their free 20 minutes before going to an art opening: when telling Bob that “I’m getting older and my knee and back hurt,” Bob quips, “F@%& you, Dave.” Straight for the jugular. Ouch.
9. The Windsor Road Sessions: Bob records his greatest hits. “Carol, go in the other room” when recording “It’s Easy To Make Her Cry”.
10. Dave’s fundraiser concert at Limerick Junction: the whole Deutsch/Cohen/Kogon family was there!
11. Walks with Carol to the bird sanctuary.
12. Kayaking/canoeing with Robin and Bob on Beaver Lake.
13. Bike rides and walks through the neighborhood and Beaver Lake...with heavy hands on…saying “hi” to all we pass.
14. Dining in Asheville, Deutsch-style: burritos, Trevi, Fresh Market apple pie.
15. Doc Watson & David Holt concert. “Railroad Bill”…
16. Tim O’Brien concert
17. Multiple MLK Day visits to Asheville: a tradition?
18. Casual jam sessions in the sun room: Beatles, the Band, James Taylor
19. Remembering Grandma Bea in Detroit: but that’s no excuse for a Deutsch mishap: Bob floods the hotel floor by flushing the toilet.
20. Shindig on the Green 2006: oh boy. Asheville’s finest.
21. Brisket prep (by the whole family) and a full, home-cooked Jewish meal in the Deutsch Sukkah.
22. Butcher Block Time – nothing else like it!
23. Miscellaneous, fridge-clearing “wrap” sandwiches with grilled veggies, honey mustard, and anything else that can be scrounged up.
24. Reading the morning paper at the Butcher Block and admiring the day’s most intriguing stories. Top story of all time: Woodfin Diaper Party.
25. Eli Evans speaks at UNC Asheville…then joins us back at the Deutsch house for pecan pie!
26. Bob and Dave take a tour of Sonopress.
27. Watching the Golden Globes in Asheville: Carol & Robin stationed in front of the TV and Dave on-call in the next room for celebrity references.
28. Opening up Bob’s trunk and trying to identify where he got a random camera equipment from.

Atlanta:
29. Christmas in Atlanta: dinner at the Golden “Booty” and the search for Gerald’s wallet.
30. Dinner at Fortune Cookie in Atlanta. We learned that Carol always wanted to be named “Brenda.”
31. Dinner in Atlanta with Robin and Carol at Sunflower Café. Perhaps one of Robin’s last meals EVER at a vegetarian restaurant.
32. Walks and jogs in Atlanta along the Chatahoochie.
33. Atlanta Weekend of Mayhem #1: Eve’s baby naming, a quick change in the AA bathrooms, and then off to Marc & Brynne Goncher’s wedding…Bob and Carol driving away ever-so-slowly and waving…
34. Hanging out at the Lake House.
35. Dave’s 32nd birthday party at Andy’s Atlanta Bachelor Pad – and the entire selection of chips and crackers courtesy of Bob’s shopping spree at Whole Foods.
36. Final Four 2007 in Atlanta: the wait for Robin’s arrival from NYC – constant phone calls throughout her 12-hour adventure.

New York:
37. “The Parents Meet” in NYC: W Hotel, Moving Out – the musical, Blue Fin, Bistango, the “winning lottery ticket” – a full weekend of celebration.
38. Limo ride around New York: Golly!
39. Bob’s first solo trip to NYC: CanStruction, Golda’s Balcony, Indian cuisine, a jog through Central Park, Frank Rich interviews Terry Gross; staying at Walter and Larry’s place.
40. Robin’s NYU Graduation Weekend in NYC: LIVE! at the Apollo!
41. NYC phone calls to Asheville: Carol referencing the map, “where are you now?”

Wedding/Engagement:
42. Driving Up To Asheville: Dave sends his “popping the question” song to Bob. Then in a later phone conversation, Bob urges Dave to “move it along” because “Carol has trouble keeping secrets.”
43. Robin and Dave call to share the news of their engagement. Bob and Carol answer the phone and Robin says, “I said yes.” Their response: “To what?”
44. The treacherous drive to visit Charlene on Cold Mountain – a true team-building experience.
45. Summer of 2004 in Saratoga: The Deutsch/Cohen/Kogon and Edwards families bond as Carol recovers.
46. Bob becomes the mayor of Saratoga in a matter of weeks.
47. Opening wedding gifts in the Deutsch living room and downstairs.
48. Wedding preparation: Wednesday night dinners with our respective families. Dave has a perfect evening with Bob & Sue, while disaster strikes the Deutsch family.
49. Pre-wedding festivities at Shangri-La. Asian Asheville-style: acoustic guitar jam with fiddle and a chorus of singers.
50. The Wedding: Dancing to the tunes of purple-suited Complete Desire (wedding band and escort service).

And more:
51. Carol’s customer service presentation: “If you don’t know me by now, you will never, never, ever know me. Oooh ooh ooh.”
52. Rehearsing the skit for Ross and Sara’s rehearsal dinner….only to be outdone by their own Apprentice skit.
53. D.C. Family trip for Emily’s graduation & Morris’s concert. Embassy Suites, Yip Harburg classics and a round of Beatles tunes in the Deutsch living room.
54. Thanksgiving 2005 in Saratoga: Carol’s big return to Saratoga!
55. Saratoga Thanksgiving: Football in the snow followed by drinks at the Parting Glass…a true manly experience.
56. The First Annual Oscar Competition: Carol narrowly wins with her well-researched selection of “You Know It’s Hard Out Here For A Pimp”.
57. The Second Annual Oscar Competition: Carol crushes the field.
58. Thanksgiving in Hilton Head: walks and football on the beach.
59. Phone conversations on Sunday nights ending abruptly at 9 p.m. when The Sopranos come on.
60. Family Reunion 2006: Guitar Hero competitions. My mother-in-law made me very proud.

Happy Birthday!
Love,
Dave

Connie & Tom Glaser

2007-10-23T17:43:00.000-04:00

SIX DECADES OF INTER-CONNECTIVITY

Detroit, 1959

At Joe Cornell

We won the prize

Bob was the best

Of all the guys

(Connie wasn’t so bad either)

The Sixties and Seventies

Our parallel lives

Couldn’t be finer…

Michigan, Cambridge, and

North Carolina

(Who was following whom? You, of course, were always 6 months older!)

Main Street

Nineteen seventy-five

Bob opens his office

The Glasers arrive

(Along with Bernice and Al, Mead Parce and other H’ville notables)

The Eighties and Nineties

Savannah, Lodge Freeway

Our lives intersect

With children and simchas

We always connect

(Let me count the ways…Old Edwards Inn, The Swag, Big Fork, Whitefish, Inishbofen, Dingle…and “Whatever you do, #$% GO over Connor’s Pass”)

2000 and Beyond

July 4th and New Years

We’re always together

Enjoying great laughs

In spite of the weather

(So what if it’s 10 below, Bob – of course, we’re up for the fireworks!)

Your friendship’s provided

A boatload of pleasure

Here’s to Carol and Bobby

Our national treasure!

(And here’s to Lucy and Ricky… and another six decades of fun, joy, and laughter!)

With all our love to the world’s best friends,
Connie and Tom

Shelly, Harvey, Josh & Julia Berman

2007-10-23T16:35:00.000-04:00

I vividly remember when my parents went to your wedding…..as you know, my father had a very special bond with your family. I remember when they came home and told us how much they loved Carol and her family. Through the years, we have been through good and less good times together. It has always been special to celebrate family simchas together. The highlight for me, and my family, was the first family reunion we planned at Tamarack Butzel Conference Center about 13 years ago! I still can’t believe how fabulous it was; at our peak on Saturday afternoon we had 105 people. We got to benefit from Carol’s family reunion experience while adding our own Hungarian twist. Our parents’ generation truly loved it and the best part is that most of them were still alive to enjoy it! Several years later, at Robin’s graduation brunch from UM, we decided to plan the second one. It was not quite the same, but was still wonderful.

It is amazing how young 60 is today (it didn’t used to be that young!!). We love you and wish you both your happiest birthdays yet, with a special wish for healthy years to come. We miss seeing you in Ann Arbor, but maybe we can connect in NY soon.

All our love, Shelly, Harvey, Josh, and Julia.

Harriet Miller

2007-10-23T13:44:00.000-04:00

I've racked my brain and could only remember this story when Uncle Alvin and I were visiting Ashville. Bobby and Carol met us for breakfast, and Bobby enlightened me on the facts of life. He pointed out the people who were coming in the restaurant, and informed us of who slept with whom the night before. I was quite young and naive at the time, and it came as a total shock to me!

Happy Birthday!

Love,
Aunt Harriet

Andy Deutsch

2007-10-23T11:02:00.000-04:00

Dear Mom and Dad:
60 is pretty special. You have so many special aspects to your life - and both friends and family have repeatedly told them to me as we launched this website.

"Andy - your parents are so full of energy!" (I know, was my response.)

"Andy - they are so vibrant and full of ideas." (Again, I know, was my response. Especially after 12 cups of coffee before 8 AM)

"Andy - your dad could out run me." (That's true. He could outrun everyone.)

"Andy - how does your mom do so much for the community?" (Answer: NO idea - she just does.)
I think back over my short 27 year life and how much both of you have influenced me - both from an early age, and still to this day. There is not a phone conversation that doesn't end with this statement from you, Dad: "Well, would you like anymore advice?" The answer is, and always will be (though I don't always say it) yes.

There will be no time in my life that I shouldn't/wouldn't welcome advice from the 2 smartest, most caring, loving, and thoughtful people in my life. I admire y'all for a number of reasons:

You chose your own path - lived in Hendersonville, when no one said you should.

You started your own companies (legal and customer service), when the easier path would be to just get a job somewhere.

You shaped the community around you, when it would have been easier to just let the community shape you.

You have embraced the opportunities, success and failures that life has offered. Your life has not been without challenges, but I truly believe that you have learned from every one of them – and become better people as a result.

You have truly filtered what is important in your life – at 60 you have had ample time to really prioritize. And, it’s clear in the way you live what those priorities are: Family, Friends, Community, Fun, and Knowledge/Wisdom.

As you enter your 7th Decade (WOW) – take all of these characteristics and continue to utilize and grow them.

I am so lucky to have had 27 years with you as my parents. From being a 9 lb 9 oz baby boy to a Husky pre-teen, to a semi-financially viable young adult, you have been there every step of the way, to provide advice (“hey, you can either take my advice, or flush it down the toilet”), love, nurturing and anything else I could ever need.
I couldn’t be happier to be in Asheville to celebrate both of your 60th birthdays.

I love you so much,
Andy

Bart and Neal Cohen

2007-10-23T10:56:00.000-04:00

Paula Cantor

2007-10-23T09:11:00.000-04:00

Sara, Ross & Marion Kogon

2007-10-23T09:06:00.000-04:00

Aunt Carol and Uncle Bobby

On your 60^th birthday we wanted to send you best wishes from our whole family!

As we sit here writing this we have a new member of the family who cannot wait to get to know her great aunt and uncle. We have told them about the warm hearts and wonderful adventures of Aunt Carol and Uncle Bobby. People who are fun, kind and always have open arms and hearts.

We are so happy for y’all on this simcha and await many, many, many more to celebrated together as mishpacha!

Happy birthday and we love you so much

Sara, Ross and Marion Kogon

Debi Miles and Marc Rudow

2007-10-23T08:41:00.000-04:00

Glossary of Deutschim Terminolgy (alphabetically)

"Andy told me about this new show on TV he started watching" – A sign that a show is about to be an incredible success and run for 20 years

(____________, do you know_____________? - Bob's three -dimensional (with sound) version of name tags – whether you are on the trail, at shul, or playing music!

"Customer Service" –non profit, for profit…Carol's tm - Make nice in every encounter….try to be helpful.

"Do you want to know the Robert J. Deutsch theory?"… – Bob's creative, clear and cogent solution to any problem.

"Get out of my office and stay out" – an indication that Bob's legal representation of you has terminated on less than standard good terms (something we all wish we had the nerve to say)

"It's for Israel" – It takes priority…olim, dignitaries, folks you meet on the road, every chance you get – and take everyone with you.

"I've got PA's today" – Carol's busy

"Judy says" – When someone is worthy of great respect …a maven… even in Asheville.

Machatunim – first people in our generation to have such counterparts – here is a shout out to Bob and Sue with the nicest "My Dave" in the world.

Mittin and Drinnin…Oy –This is in the middle of everything and it is all boloxed up – a real mess but you have to put a smile on the punim and go on.

"My Robin"/"My Andy" – Looks like a possessive form but in practice more like "I'm your biggest fan!" what every child should have in their corner – a supportive family.

"Shabbat at Mothers" – This means someone has cooked for a week, lots of people there …the good kind of obligation.

"Usual Suspects" – We are going to Bob and Carol's for Shabbat

"With underwriting from the Deutsch Family Fund" – a great lesson in the most important spending there is…tzedekah.

"What a beautiful day" alternate form "What a day!"- (emphasize the "What") – Small talk to made by Bob after riding his bike for 40 miles.

X, X, and X (for the 3d time) – Template for one of Bob "O'Carolan" Deutsch's odes to his friends (like "Duvey, Duvey, Duvey, your name is like a song" Copyright RJD Productions 2002 –or Tekiah, Tekiah, Tekiah, the Sound of the Shofar.)

"You just do this" – The simple solution to a complicated situation a la "Robert J. Deutsch".

ZZZZZ – Shabbat afternoon ….don't call .

This is all to say….with great love and affection….the best on 60 years! Here is to more years of friendship….. until we "rest in the grave".

Love, Debi and Marc

Jimmy Smolev

2007-10-22T23:11:00.000-04:00

I have known Bobby for 50 years. I got to know him well during the summer of 1960 when I was his Junior Counselor in Ranger 4 at Tamakwa. He was pudgy little guy who was a joy to 'counsel' even back then. We lost touch for 25 years, but reconnected when Igot a call to come to Detroit for Tamakwa's 50th Reunion. That trip changed my life and my family's life. Not only did I get to re-unite with the best friends I had ever had, but I now got to see Bobby (and meet Carol) as an adult.

Bobby was no longer that chubby little camper, but he had become the most extra-ordinary (and buff) man I had- and to this day-have ever met. I have gone on most of the canoe trips. Both of my daughters have spent time with Bob and Carol-either as their guests in Asheville before Jenny and I did Outward Bound, or dinner in Ann Arbor when Melanie and I had dinner with Bob and Robin when she was a Uof M freshman {Go Blue!}.

I have continued to be inspired by Bobby's life- and his life with Carol. If there is a 21st CenturyRenaissance Man, it is Bob Deutsch. He is a loving husband, father, son, brother, friend, lawyer, author, rabbi, son of Israel, tripper, singer-songwriter, and overall nurturer.

The dictionary defines the word "mensch":"someone who resembles Bobby Deutsch." I have Bobby's beautiful memorial that he wrote forour friend, Harris Cohen, "The Bowman", hanging in my room at home, and I read it whenever I need inspiration, or serenity, or perspective. I feel truly blessed that Bob Deutsch considers me his friend. I always want to be a better person because of Bobby, and Carol.

Jimmy Smolev

David & Riva Rosenberg

2007-10-22T23:04:00.000-04:00

I have several early Bobby & Carol memories including the announcement of their engagement, Bobby not being at the house for a Passover Seder and my freaking out to Aunt Bea about it, walks with Chip & Booby, and who could forget all the many skits (including,"David was the teacher-Riva was the student" at my rehearsal dinner.)

But what stands out for me is when i was about 11 or 12 (35 years ago!) my father took myself & my brother to visit in beautiful Hendersonville, N.C. We arrived on a friday just in time to see Bobby the lawyer in legal action at the courthouse. He was examining (or cross examining) a witness. "So, are you saying that you saw the defendant approachingthe screen door?" ". . . and after he was on the porch. . .. but he didn't enter the home. . . " I thought, "wow, this is what lawyers do--I can do that!"

Carol had made us dinner and we were getting a tour of the house. I just have this visceral memory of her being so warm & loving--the whole southern accent and manner reminded me of my own mother. I also remember how beautiful the house was and the mountains. Bobby was really hyping up going for a hike the next morning. I remember telling him that we hiked at camp (Tamarack) and that it would be no big deal. The next morning we went on a hike and all I remember is passing out in the back of his pick up truck and my father saying that they're too heavy to pick up! I was dead to the world and could hardly move.

When we got back to Michigan I told my friends that I went hiking with my cousin and that we went for 100 miles and that I collapsed (the word I heard my father and Bobby say). But most of all I remember the trip as a wonderful time with my grown up cousins who were so much older than me--but yet, so cool.

Love,

David
_______________________________________

I can't believe its your 60th birthday. I have to say that even though we don't see each other often enough, you have always been an inspirational couple to me. You are both kind, generous of spirit, warm, down to earth, and loving people. As they say, the proof is in the pudding. You have raised two of the sweetest and greatest young adults that we know. David and I aspire to give Matthew and Sofie the wonderful upbringing that you have shared with Robin and Andy. We can only hope that they turn out as well as your kids.

A funny memory of Carol...
Do you remember Emily's bat mitzvah? We are in the hotel lobby chatting, Sofie is 3 and Matthew is 5(I think). Sofie has this dolly which she totally adores and she has named her Carol. I think its so funny that she has named her Carol and that Carol's name is Carol so I say, "Sofie, do you know what her name is?" (pointing to Carol)- Sofie says "no". I say, "it's Carol, just like your dolly". At this moment, for some unknown reason, Sofie decides its a good idea to to pretend she's a Red Sox pitcher and throws that doll at Carol's face. Ouch! Carol is clearly in pain but is gracious about the whole incident- no surprise. I am of course totally mortified. Sofie starts to cry. I have to say that she has never thrown anything at anyone since then. Thanks for being so understanding, Carol!

Something I love about Bobby:
Bobby, I love your musical talent and how you enhance any family event by doing a song about it. I remember... our rehearsal dinner- David was the teacher, Riva was the student....A cute little ditty about the beginning of our love. Thanks for making that night so special!

I love you both and wish you at least another 60 years of health, love and happiness!!! Happy Birthday!

Riva

Laurie, Rick, Alice, Margaret, and Gabe

2007-10-22T22:39:00.000-04:00

Bob and Carol,

Our first question is, will you two ever slow down enough for mere 50-somethings to keep up with you? Gosh, Bob, somedays I don't even know if a 14 1/2 year old (Gabe) can keep up with you! Of course, we don't want you to slow down except around the Shabbat dinner table with the usual suspects. Your friendship and love has enriched and deepened our lives. You remain an inspiration to us in every way--showing us the way to be better friends, members of the community, and citizens of the world. We wish you both good health, joy, and lots of love as you enter what we are sure will be another miraculous decade on your amazing journeys! And we look forward to spending the next decade, too, with you as friendship continues to deepen. Happy birthday to two amazing people with we feel blessed to call our dear friends!

Love, Laurie, Rick, Alice, Margaret, and Gabe

Mark Leemon

2007-10-22T21:55:00.000-04:00

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUSE

For a guy who has been known on occasion to be just a little bit wordy, I have to say that wishing the two of you Happy Birthday with “a few personal memories” is an undertaking that pretty much leaves me speechless. I am plagued even at this advanced age with an excellent memory, and my memories of both of you are so plentiful, rich and vivid that putting them in words would take another 60 years for a typist much faster than I. My difficulty is compounded by the impossibility of putting into words the depth and texture of my feelings of love for you.

But, I don’t want to disappoint your excellent kids, and after all, I promised, so here goes. If some of these thoughts seem sketchy or vague to others, I’m confident that you will get the gist.

Happy Birthday, Carol random thoughts and memories:

How absolutely certain Bobby was that you were the one within nanoseconds of his meeting you in Markley, and how odd this seemed to me as an 18 year-old dufus.

Your morning look with your hair up in big rollers and the ever fashionable flannel nightgown and floppy slippers.

Our place on Forest Court and the apartment you shared with Barbara Waldman.

The time I brought my neighbor Betty from the cockroach manor in Allston over to your place in Brighton and she proceeded to eat everything that was not nailed down.

The Night of the Living Dead.

How funny it was, for whatever reason, the first time you did “the language lab”.

The conversation in Bedford where we worked out our “triangle” jealousies.

You traveling through the dark of morning and the dark of evening to and from Chelmsford High in grownup dress clothes while we went to school and messed around. I’m sure none of us were sensitive enough to how alienating it must have been.

The auction barn in Hendersonville, where the four of us had more teeth than everyone else combined. I have never forgiven myself for passing on the pig cigarette case that shot cigarettes out of its butt.

Teaching ESL to the hill folk.

Your description of the potluck featuring lime Jell-o with mayo.

Discovering our shared love of kitchen organization and the perfect container, when I kept house for you.

Your (practically) unfailing grace during Bernice’s inspection tours.

Your bizarre maladies and injuries and the good humor (at least in retrospect) with which you bore them.

Your unfailing friendliness to my various girlfriends and wives, the good and the questionable.

The ICU in Saratoga.

Your triumphal appearance at Robin’s wedding.

How your house has always been my house, even when you might not have always been in the mood.

Happy Birthday to you.

Happy Birthday to Bobby random thoughts and memories:

Once again you are testing the birthday waters for me six weeks ahead, as you have for more than 50 years. From our “club” on Boo Krolik’s garage roof to weeks ago in Utah you are, were and will be my best friend.

Perhaps it was that trip to Utah, maybe it’s just the whole getting old thing, but many of the memories that jump to my mind are the oldest:

Tetherball

Horse

Climbing back and forth over the Wordens’ fence so often, we kept destroying it.

Pretend baseball in the street.

My mom’s mandel bread

Dinner with the Deutsches at Joe Muer

Bernice locking the freezer

Finding out about Wimpy’s “bad ear” the hard way

Findng out about Wimpy’s bad digestive system the hard way.

Sleepovers

Hot afternoons watching baseball and playing cards in your blessed air conditioning.

Mr. Plofkin

Mr. Ben-Dor

The Sultans. Just one of the places you made room for me that might not otherwise have been there.

Your willingness and ability to talk to (shudder) girls. Thank God you needed no wingman.

Playing Sammy football. We lined up right next to each other.

Drunk and crying with Al at your wedding.

The joy of watching your kids catch on to and get a kick out of all of your obsessive shticks.

I of course remember when you were as round as you were high, while I sprung up early. Nonetheless, you were always more coordinated, quicker (though not faster), and certainly more game. It never would have crossed my mind to wrestle in High School.

These memories and thousands of others as kids and adults of course leave out the emotional stuff, which for the most part we have always left unsaid. It makes me happy and comfortable to be with you. I know what and how you think and you know what and how I think. You have always been accepting and welcoming of my mishegass as I hope I have been with yours. Although I may not always feel less crazy around you, it has always been plain that my craziness was OK, or at least didn’t matter. There may be a hundred people I spend time with or even talk to more frequently than you, but I would never think of anyone else as my best friend. I’ve got your back, and I’m sure you’ve got mine.

So Happy Birthday, old man. I look forward to the time (which I have always assumed is coming) when we can spend more time and birthdays together. As the kids say, you’re my BFF.

Penny & Larry Deitch

2007-10-22T21:43:00.000-04:00

Dear Carol and Bob--

Happy Birthday! How do we begin to collect and recall all that we've shared over 40 years? We're not up to creating a Cohen/Deutsch memory book or poem or skit or musical or operetta, so we have no choice but to just let it flow. Of course it all began at Michigan, with Mary Markley Hall and Sigma Alpha Mu providing the bases for our friendship. The remarkable and wonderful thing is that it didn't just fade into the collegiate sunset when we left Ann Arbor. We are so proud and happy that we have stayed close through so many phases of our lives, and that we are able to share our 60th birthdays now.

Here we go: Meeting you guys at Markley, very early freshman year, a couple of out-of-state girls encountering all these Michigan folks. Carol, those long talks sitting on the floor in the dorm hallway; I was trying to conduct a conversation, but transfixed by your cosmetic-removing routine. Helping Carol shop for and survive the first Michigan winter...and helping Carol shop for the next 4 years! Bob, Carol, Penny, Mark, etc., etc., hanging out in the Markley cafeteria and study halls...surely not studying. Then, Larry and Bobby as Sammies..classic fraternity life?...Roommates all once again on Forest Court and neighboring apts. As we shared last month at Larry's big birthday, you guys were critical to the first (and only) surprise party for a Larry Deitch milestone birthday: without Bob's intervention, there would have been no guest of honor. Other great parties include dinner at Penny's apartment on Hill Street, and our graduation lunc heon on Forest Court.

And then that Law School era vacation in Montreal and Quebec City...in December! Who else would have agreed to a trip to that climate to spend time with a friend with sun allergies? But, we made up for it over the course of many years with various trips to in-laws' Florida vacation homes, your homes in Atlanta, Asheville, Hendersonville, Hilton Head, and ours in Sarasota. Also the Rose Bowl. Vacation bonus: membership in Bob's Adventure Club...truth be told now: we really hated that sea kayaking in Hilton Head. But, Billy loved hanging out with you (especially since Bob was paddling.)

Things do truly "come around." How wonderful to be able to re-group when Robin and Andy came to UM...especially with Robin as Leslie's Tri Delt Big Sis. Sarah ending up at Harvard Law School, and Penny having the pleasure of mentoring Robin. Going through life's challenges together also. And, the life cycle events: the passing of parents...and the coming of age of our children, a couple of weddings already.

So here we are, so many years later. Still friends, working together, spending time, staying connected. We love you and cherish our friendship all the more after 40 years. Happy Birthday.

Love,
Penny and Larry

Laurie Kogon

2007-10-22T21:42:00.002-04:00

Dear Aunt Carol and Uncle Bobby,

(Uncle Bobby, I know you said that since I am a mother, I should call you Bobby and not Uncle Bobby. But, I feel that now that you are 60, you’ve re-earned the title Uncle!)

Both of you are such wonderful people. I am always amazed at your thoughtfulness. From your unbelievably creative skits (thank goodness for your creativity!) to your incredibly well thought out “chach”, you put your love for the family and passion into everything you do. I thank you for everything that you do for all of us.

Bobby, I love chatting with you about all the nonsense celebrity gossip and Carol, I love hearing your animated and exciting stories.

I wish you both a wonderful birthday. The best is yet to come! To love, health, and happiness! L’Chaim!

Love,

Laurie Kogon

Marcy Goldberg

2007-10-22T21:42:00.001-04:00

Just wanted to wish you both many more years together filled with happiness and love. Wanted to thank Bobby for coming to Detroit to be with me when my mother died. It meant a lot to me.

Lots of love,

Marcy

Ronna & Merv Hellman

2007-10-22T21:41:00.001-04:00

Dear Bob and Carol,

It is with much love that we send you birthday wishes on your 60th birthdays. May you be blessed with much health, love, happiness and peace in the coming years. Now the two of you have joined the elite family group who are in our sixties---and it's really not so bad!

Love to you both,
Ronna and Merv

Sue & Stan Greenberg

2007-10-22T21:40:00.002-04:00

It is the equivalent of an honor for us to feel like a part of the Deutsch Family. You are truly an extraordinary family that finds time to do all those things that most familys never seem to find the time to do. Things such as attending a myriad of family events, reaching out to help others, celebrating and living your religious beliefs, etc., etc., etc., while also conducting a full and time consuming legal practice and fitting in numerous family and pleasure trips.

We haven't figured out the secret of how you can do it all.

In any event, it is our pleasure to be with you to celebrate your 60th Birthdays.

Sue and Stan Greenberg

This is a little Bob story. Your dad and I have been partners in various businesses and real estate deals for over 18 years, and during most of that time, we've been office mates as well. Our offices have a small men's room and a large ladies room. But there happens to be an extra bathroom which is in my office. It is only used by myself and your dad as our private restroom.

I have learned over time that your dad is frugal about electricity. Whenever someone is not in their office, he'll come in and shut out the lights. For a long time I used to come back from a meeting to find the lights out in my office and never knew who turned them out, nor did I care.

On occasion, either myself or your dad would be working late in the office sometimes till dark. The way I found out it was him was one night we were both working late, and I went to the bathroom. When I came out of the bathroom I was in total darkness as your dad had left and turned out the lights.

The next day I asked him if he was the one who goes around turning out lights and he confessed that that was his obsession. By the way, even now on many occasions in the middle of the day I would step out of the bathroom only to find my office lights turned out.

Stan

Stanley & Judy Kolodkin

2007-10-22T21:40:00.001-04:00

We enjoyed many family meals and good conversations with Bob and Carol while they were living in Bedford MA (on one memorable night they introduced us to corn dogs - not exactly a traditional New England classic). They would come over from time to time for dinner at our home in Lexington. On one particular evening toward the end of the month, they waxed eloquent about the roast beef dinner with all the trimmings we had just had - their monthly budget was running out and they were living on peanut butter, potato chips and tuna fish, pinching pennies to make their allowance last. In almost the next breath, they were discussing their plans to spend the summer traveling through Europe, maybe around the world.

We chuckled, but I don't think they ever saw the humor in it.

Stanley and Judy Kolodkin

Adam & Matthew Cantor, Emily & Greg Grossman

2007-10-22T21:39:00.001-04:00

Dear Cousins Carol and Bobby,

Happy 60th Birthday! We feel so lucky to have you as family and friends. We have grown up listening to the stories and tales of your youth, and we are thrilled to share in this milestone.

Much love to you both,
Adam, Emily, Greg, and Matthew

Phyllis & Wayne Lazarus

2007-10-22T21:38:00.000-04:00

Dear Carol and Bobby,

Now that you are both 60 I’ve got good and bad news for you. Here is the bad first, you both still need to wait two more years to qualify for the senior discounts at most cinemas and museums and other good things. Not to even mention that Social Security is another couple of years – if there is anything left in it. Now the good part, I guess that means you are still young!

You are a wonderful couple who are sharing a journey together filled with so much joy and also some unique challenges. We all have our own dramas and how we all face them is what makes each of us unique. I must say that through all the good and not so good times you both have shown us how to face it all with dignity and humor.

I remember that first time meeting you both at Elaine and Alan Kolodkin’s home for our engagement party in 1974. I was meeting all the cousins and will always remember you two coming dressed for a prom. I knew then that you were a very special couple and cousins that I would always look forward to being with.

May you both celebrate 60 more years with the joy of life that you have shown in the first 60!

Mazel tov,

Phyllis and Wayne

Kenny Foon

2007-10-22T21:37:00.000-04:00

Happy Birthday Bob and Carol!

So let me begin at the beginning. I was sitting in the middle of a gigantic lecture hall at the University of Michigan and in walks my best friend Bob who sees me and begins to climb over 20 rows to sit with me. Young Carol notices this crazed teenager climbing over rows of seats like a chimanzee and many years later after they were married she admitted to me she fell in love with him on the spot and thought to herself "I'm going to marry that boy". Carol, correct me if I don't have this 100% accurate but I think it's close to the truth. Well, needless to say she did marry that boy and produced two amazing children from that union.

I have way too many Bob stories to share in this first gloss effort. Bob and I have been best friends since childhood where we first met at Camp Tamakwa. Bob was a little roly poly kid back then and I'll never forget when he returned one summer to Tamakwa after missing the previious summer to go to Israel. He came into camp having grown 6 inches in height and was slender and handsome. It was a new Bobby Deutsch. All of a sudden the stuck up Tamakwa girls took notice of the new slenderized Bobby Deutsch and it was a free for all. Bob was one happy camper that summer.

Bob and I more or less grew up in each others homes. We went to Cass Tech for two years together before he moved to Bloomfield. We've been together through the best and worse times. We've been canoe tripping in Algonquin Park one week every summer together for the past 25 years (plus or minus a few summers because of family issues). Perhaps the worst family situation was when Carol was ill in Saratoga and I went to be with Bob when Carol was in the ICU. Carol was sedated on a respirator .Comedy is sometimes born from tragedy. Bob wanted me there not just for company but for my medical advice and for me to hopefully tell him that Carol will be fine and boost his spirits .Bob, his brother-in-law and I went to the bedside to see Carol and I "lost it". Tears were flowing and I couldn't say anything. Long after Carol's recovery Bob told me that at the moment I broke down he turned to his brother-in-law and whispered "I think we're in big trouble".

I'll stop here and I just want to say how much I cherish our friendship. You are two of the finest people I have ever known and I feel privileged that you consider me a friend.

Happy 60th

Love,

Kenny

Chuck & Robby Robinson

2007-10-22T20:45:00.000-04:00

Happy 60 th birthday to two of the most special people in the world. Our relationship goes back many years and, although we haven’t seen you nearly as often as we would have liked, we always think about you. We were sad when our planned weekend this summer didn’t quite pan out – and we’re determined to make it work next time. We love you and wish you all the best.

Sincerely,

Chuck & Robby

Ronna and Rob Resnick

2007-10-22T08:48:00.000-04:00

Dear Bobby and Carol
I go back along way with Bobby, as I went to Hebrew School with him.
All of us went to Michigan but I really didn't connect with them in Ann
Arbor. Then we all moved to Boston but again no connection..
Where did we all rendezvous but in Asheville, NC. Finally.

My dad had a haberdashery store where he made a hat for Bobby's
grandfather. But more interesting than that is the house I grew up in
belonged
to Bobs aunt Elaine. When my folks bought the house they also bought
some of the furniture. The coffee table upstairs in the hallway
belonged to Aunt Elaine.
We've come full circle. It's nice to have friends like the Deutsch's.

Happy birthday and the best of health to you both.

Love, Ronna and Rob

Lauren Estrin

2007-10-22T07:59:00.000-04:00

Dear Carol and Bob,
It has been so very special to celebrate both of your birthdays together in Asheville. I wish I could sing happy birthday to you like the opera singer, but I'm tone deaf! So I will just say mazel tov and wish you many more happy and healthy years together.

Love, Lauren

Carrie Edwards & Jason Ellis

2007-10-21T17:52:00.002-04:00

Happy 60th Birthdays! In thinking back over the past few years Jason and I came up with similar thoughts about what makes you both so very special...

1. You are so very warm and sincere and care so much about your family and friends
2. You are always ready to celebrate any and every occasion in a unique and heartfelt way
3. You are welcoming and make everyone feel as if they are a special part of your family
4. Generous is something that you have been not only to us and our family but to Jason's family. You always go the extra mile and never forget a special or important time in the lives of those you are close to.
5. You are so REAL- you are fun, funny, and completely authentic! It is always such a pleasure being together- sharing stories and leanring more and more about you and laughing at the similarities between our familes.
6. You are strong and inspirational and have proven that the power of a positive mind and strong values and beliefs will guide you through any challenge or struggle.

We are honored and grateful to be a part of your family and share in this amazing celebration of 60 years of Carol and Bob. May the days, weeks, months and years get even better, brighter and more joy filled for you both!

With Love,
Carrie and Jason

Kirsten & Bobby Fatzinger

2007-10-21T17:52:00.001-04:00

Top Ten Things That Make Bob and Carol Great Surrogate Parents and Forever Friends

10. An endless supply of rice casserole at 27 Windsor Road

9. For letting Robin be my chauffeur for what felt like a lifetime

8. And then letting Andy be the first person to ride with me when I got my license

7. The Raptor Center

6. Followed by the Dead Show

5. And then the subsequent April Fools’ jokes

4. Because Bobby D + Bobby F = the 2-Bob crew

3. And because you never caught us sneaking out to the golf course (or else you let us get away with it)

2. For always asking good questions

And the number one reason why I’m grateful to you as parents and friends:

1. For caring about the answers to those questions

Congratulations on your birthdays, Bob and Carol—here’s to many more wonderful adventures!

I love ya!
--Kirsten (D#2)

Sue & Bob Edwards "The Machatunim"

2007-10-21T17:51:00.002-04:00

Sue & Bob Edwards

Part 1 MEET THE PARENTS

The day I received the new revised version of the MEET THE PARENTS video, I had the feeling that meeting Carol and Bob the parents of the "deelishus" woman our son had chosen to marry was not going to be an ordinary experience.
The very first day we met, Carol and Robin had invited future mother-in-law to join them for the wedding dress hunt at Kleinfeld's in Brooklyn. Within a few hours, Carol (almost a stranger) was in my arms and we were teary as we gazed at Robin, wide eyed and beautiful when she found "THE DRESS".Needless to say we bonded and there was great joy!!

Part 2 MEET THE FAMILY
June 24, 2004, ...the Kogons, the Cohens, the Deutschs and many others made the voyageup to Saratoga to celebrate Robin and Dave's engagement and soon to be wedding.
On the way to Saratoga Carol became critically ill....and the joy and celebrating halted while family and friends arrived and stayed with Bob and I to sit vigil and support Carol, Bob , Robin and Andy. It was then that we learned the true meaning of unconditional love and devotion. We spent hours, days, weeks, talking, eating, praying for Carol's recovery..and she did.!!!!!

The silver lining to this very difficult time is that we are friends and family for life (not just the in-laws). We know the family stories..the jokes, who the 100 cousins and great-great-aunts are , the "buthcher-block" etc..etc..We have inherited a beautiful , amazing family that we love and cherish.

We look forward to many joyous shared experiences and hopefully travels.

Carol...you are a sister, a soulmate!!

Bobby.....you are 1 in 10 million!!! We knew from the start we always needed our sneakers on to run, go , do , try , read...you name it. You keep us going . The human bionic computer man.

REFLECT....REJOICE ..AND ENJOY YOUR 60TH BIRTHDAYS !!!!!! , Love Sue

i hope i don't echo sue's comments but if so, it's one of the privlieges of already being 60.
after a brief but most enjoyable first meeting in the big apple which included dinner, a jazz club, a dinner for breakfast, and a joint purchase of failed mega lotto tickets we concluded our first meeting.
if i recall correctly (again another privilege of being 60) our 2nd visit wasn't all that it was supposed to be. it turned into an extended visit by the entire family as carol took ill in saratoga. because of the great outcome, we experienced something that most future in-laws never do - we met and fell in love with a whole new set of relatives (who insisted i cook for them every night - just kidding marty, judy, mark & tova, dennis, morris). if not for these unusual events we probably would only have a short passing meeting with all of them at the wedding in ashville. to wrap this up being 60 is simple - you have to show up and whatever miracle it took - WE ALL MADE IT! have a great birthday and take it from someone whose been there, 60 ain't bad
love bob

Phyllis & Richard Canvasser

2007-10-21T17:51:00.001-04:00

LET'S TOAST CAROL AND BOBBY ON THEIR 60 th BIRTHDAYS!

TOP TEN THINGS EVERYONE LOVES ABOUT BOBBY AND CAROL

10. Carols southern accent and Bobby's Midwest accent

9. Their ideas of adventure- Bobby going camping with the boys & Carol traveling & staying in hotels

8. Their love for family both near & far

7. Their commitment to a small town community with big hearts of gold

6. Always keeping in touch no matter how long it has been in between phone calls or emails

5. Being at all the family parties whether they are in winter, spring, summer or fall.

4. Sharing memories of our Grandparents, parents, aunts, uncles, & the stories they tell so well

3. Rooting for our teams in Michigan and NC

2. For being unselfish and giving to all those lives you touch

AND THE #1 THING EVERYONE LOVES ABOUT BOBBY AND CAROL IS:

BEING WHO THEY ARE IS WHAT THEY DO BEST!

Shirley & Mac Katzin

2007-10-21T17:50:00.000-04:00

Congratulations--we remember way back there when we were turning 60. We remember so perfectly being at your wedding and even the rehearsal dinner the night before. Another wonderful family event at AA--we had SUCH a good time. Lots of hors d'eurves, lots of food, lots of talking, and lots and lots of laughing. May you help us continue in this tradition--mazel tov to you both.

Cousins Shirley and Mac

Evie S. White

2007-10-21T17:46:00.001-04:00

Evie S. White

Carol has been a driving force and inspiration behind much of The Community Foundation’s best marketing and communications ideas. As chair of our committee, she continually surprises and delights the board with presentations about our upcoming events and activities. Her imaginative ideas are seemingly endless. Personally, she has been a friend and mentor whose generosity continually overwhelms me. It is a privilege to work with her, and thank my lucky stars every day that she serves as a board member for the foundation. I wish your mom and dad all the best on their birthdays!

Sincerely,

Evie S. White

Barbara & Burt Chasnov

2007-10-21T17:45:00.005-04:00

Barbara & Burt Chasnov
CAROL AND BOBBY.....It's amazing that you've joined the over 60 crowd as it seems like yesterday when you looked like this and this!!!!

We're here with wishes from Florida and hope that in your next 60 years you will continue to be healthy, happy, and surrounded by all those who care so deeply for you !!!

Now of course, a lot has happened since you were young and innocent because today you've earned the right to have afor Michigan and legally take a drink!!!

You've also earned the right to eat your without worrying about the calories and enjoy this from all of us who love and respect you and wish we could be with you today!!!

Enjoy each moment and celebrate every day withs!!!

LOVE TO YOU BOTH,

COUSINS BARBARA AND BURT

Michele & Michael Heller

2007-10-21T17:45:00.003-04:00

Michele and Michael Heller

Dear Carol and Bob,

When we moved to Asheville 18 years ago we never imagined how lucky we would be to live right across the street from you. The years have made us much more than neighbors...you are special friends. We have watched your garden blossom, your children mature into wonderful adults, and your love and devotion to eachother grow stronger each year. Happy happy birthday to both of you! We wish you a long lifetime of happiness together with many more celebrations to come.

Much love,

Michele and Michael

Cheryl & Ed Finkel

2007-10-21T17:45:00.001-04:00

Cheryl & Ed Finkel

We raise a toast to Carol and Bob, now rounding the corner to 60 years, going full speed ahead on the road to the future –

full of ideas and projects
full of enthusiasm
fully alive to each day’s possibilities

May you continue to bring your energy and passion to each other and to all of us who love and celebrate you…

Happy Birthday!

Love,

Cheryl and Ed Finkel

Joyce, Mark & Andrew Davidson

2007-10-21T17:44:00.003-04:00

Joyce, Mark and Andrew Davis

I am racking my brain for a juicy story about babysitting for Bobby (of course I can't be that old) but the slate has been wiped clean. He was terrific as a kid and he is a very special person now. We will just take this opportunity to wish both Bobby and Carol the happiest of birthday wishes, good health, and peace. We hope to have many more opportunities for joyous celebrations together--dancing, singing, good food, laughter, theater and hiking in the glorious mountains. Please, please come visit us in Palo Alto soon!!! Love, Cousin Joyce, Mark and Andrew Davidson

Janet & Joel Greenhill

2007-10-21T17:44:00.001-04:00

Janet and Joel Greenhill

Welcome to the 60's Club. Joel and I qualified for membership several months ago, and now you guys get to join this elite group. We're comprised of some truly amazing people who've experienced life and have lived to tell about it! Like a good, red wine, the longer we're around, the better we get. Carol and Bobby, we wish you a very happy birthday!

Love, Janet & Joel

Ricky Kohn

2007-10-21T17:43:00.001-04:00

Mazel Tov to Carol & Bob Deutsch

U of M brought them together, and because of that union,

the lives of all that know them have been enriched many, many times over.

Dedicated partners, parents, Jews, and community workers.

On our Trips in the woods, Bob is the glue that holds us together,

sets our goals, gathers our wood, builds our fires, carries our packs

and canoes, and keeps the conversation, our lives and our expectations grounded.

The Canadian Kohns wish you both many more years of happiness, good health

and peace together.

Jill, Richard, and Adam Kohn.

Ron Foon

2007-10-21T17:42:00.001-04:00

I have known Bob & Carol as a couple for at least 40 years & Bob, individually, for over 50. A lot of time has passed by with some wonderful memories. My brother Ken & Bob were the best of friends through Camp Tamakwa, high school, U of M, canoe trips and forever. I had the good fortune of hanging around the Deutsch family myself, through Bob & Ken's friendship, and the fact that Bob & my old friend Richard Canvasser were first cousins. I guess we became friends by osmosis. I've felt like part of the family and experienced the best of times with the Deutsch brothers, Bobby, Dennis & Morris, as campers & counselors at Tamakwa, playing basketball on the Deutsch house driveway, 20+ years of canoe trips, many dinners together and great discussions. I spent a lot less time with Carol, but enough time with her to feel close to her, and admire her for all of her accomplishments, her charm, great personality, and incredible courage through some very difficult times. She and Bob have shared an unbelievable companionship and marriage for a long time. They also did a fine job of parenting based on the time that I have spent with Robin and Andy, who are two excellent individuals.

Bob is the only one of the trippers who continues to keep me company on the annual run on the Oxtongue River rapids road. Those times have been special since it's an opportunity for both of us to fill each other in on what's going on with ourselves, our friends and our families. Our canoe trips have been incredible memories from which we've listened to hundreds of stories of Bob's travels, including his descriptions of the countries, the people and most importantly, how to wipe your ass with a smooth stone. If there is a side trip to go on to explore old or new places, Bob is always ready to go. On one trip Bob brought a backpack guitar that he picked up at a garage sale. Thus, we had live entertainment on that occasion. We also benefited from Bob's taking of a writing class in Asheville, by his providing all of us with a copy of his book describing our canoe trips, the fellowship and adventure. Bob's religious convictions are second to none and he is considered the "rabbi" of our trip, both as to his knowledge of Judaism and his running of our Friday night Sabbath service. Frankly, without him, we wouldn't do it.

In the summer of 2006, it looked like there would be no canoe trip since many of the trippers were unavailable for various reasons. Bob called me and said, "I've planned the time off anyways, let's go". Bob mentioned a woman he met on one of his Israel excursions who was affiliated with an outfitter in Temagami named "Smoothwater". Soon enough a 4 man canoe trip was planned with the fabulous Skolochenko brothers, Mick & Steve. It was a bit tougher trip than we anticipated, but we got through it in one piece and had a great time. More importantly, Bobby still had the opportunity to simultaneously carry a pack & a canoe as he has done on so many of our previous canoe trips. Bob was given the name, "Corporal Punishment" for his high energy tripping profile. While resting (for a change) on the campsite, somehow, Bob convinced Dr. Mick to explain the theory of "anal polishing". The question and answer session lasted at least an hour, and resulted in a lot of laughter.

Bob & Carol have a Very Happy 60th birthday. I look forward to enjoying our friendship for many more years.

Love,

Ron

Barbara & William Lewin

2007-10-21T17:41:00.002-04:00

HOW DO YOU DEFINE CLOSE FRIENDS?
Asheville – it’s “b’sheirt” – we are meant to be here.
Books - books, books – book club, reading lists, passing judgment!
Concept Man – Don’t bother me with details.
Dinners - on Shabbat with the latest guest in town
Energy – The Eveready Bunny has met his match!
Frank - opinion – a valuable commodity.
Generosity- Thanks for all you do for our community.
Heartfelt – how you give (see Generosity).
Irreverent – see jokes.
Jokes - comments in services and other important meetings
Kinder – as in “children”, as in Sunday School – curriculum and songs.
Laughs - tears, and more laughs.
Movies – What do you mean you have already seen that one?
Neighbors – 1985 – homes in Lakeview Park – we continue to decorate and renovate and renovate . . .
One hundred and twenty - Sum of the parts makes everything whole.
Performing - the latest Deutsch composition.
Quality - of life – ain’t it fun!
Rabbis – hiring, firing, and everything in between.
Spontaneity - test – do we pass?
Touching base - on family, friends and community.
Umpteen – the number of years between 1947 and 2007.
Visits – with baskets of magazines and “tschatch” and good wishes.
Watching ball games together. Not our fault he called time out!!
Xerox - OK, let’s see you fill this one.
Youthful – see Umpteen – boomers stay young, regardless of age!
Z to A, A to Z, a close friendship goes both ways!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY CAROL AND BOBBY. WE LOVE YOU!

BARBARA AND WILLIAM

Nina Abrams

2007-10-15T21:45:00.000-04:00

The stories I remember are of the celebrations together. At the wedding, how gracious Carol's family was to us all. At the Bar Mitzvahs how much fun. Even at the funerals, the warmth involved.

My only regret is that there isn't enough time to participate in more events and know you,Robin and Andy, better. If I could change the world, we would be together more often.